HeforShe?

This news was a few days back, but, if you didn’t know, I’ll post a snippet of it.

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Emma Watson’s “HeforShe” Speech as UN Women Goodwill Ambassador
UN Women

Actor and UN Women Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson gave a game-changing speech at the UN about feminism and the need for gender equality. Her speech kicked off the HeforShe campaign, which encourages men to join the fight for gender equality. Full transcript: http://owl.li/BSbad

Some of our favorite excerpts:

“I started questioning gender-based assumptions when at eight I was confused at being called “bossy,” because I wanted to direct the plays we would put on for our parents—but the boys were not. When at 14 I started being sexualized by certain elements of the press. When at 15 my girlfriends started dropping out of their sports teams because they didn’t want to appear “muscly.” When at 18 my male friends were unable to express their feelings.”

“Men—I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue too.”

“If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have to control, women won’t have to be controlled. Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong… It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum not as two opposing sets of ideals.
If we stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by what we are—we can all be freer and this is what HeforShe is about. It’s about freedom.”

“You might be thinking who is this Harry Potter girl? And what is she doing up on stage at the UN. It’s a good question and trust me I have been asking myself the same thing. I don’t know if I am qualified to be here. All I know is that I care about this problem. And I want to make it better.”

“In my nervousness for this speech and in my moments of doubt I’ve told myself firmly—if not me, who, if not now, when. If you have similar doubts when opportunities are presented to you I hope those words might be helpful.”

– UN Women Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson.

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Before I had time to read more about it, I thought… “here comes another feminist debate that will just be cut short eventually”.
But, found out that it was more of gender equality rather than being one sided.

There has always been sort of expectations out of your gender.
In my timeline, that was back when I was still in school.

When I delved into the working world, people were more open and weren’t exactly (sure, there’s still some to a certain degree) following the stigma of men and women having to act or behave in certain ways.
Sure, people try to blend in depending in different situations, but, outside of that “box” such as at work and whatnot… it’s pretty different.
Times are changing.

I have seen more men crying in the open than women.
Those “definitions” are still floating around.
It’s a matter of whether you’d care what others would say about it.

Maybe I’m one of those who’d do what I want, when I know what I want.
In a sense, that uncertainty scares people.

I’ve been there.
In a feminist point of view, I’ve been told that I couldn’t get the job I wanted to take up because it was “meant” to be for men.
Gave excuses on why they wanted men instead of women for the job.
I was just starting out, a fresh graduate and someone who was still so naive and emotionally weak from the reality of the harsh world ahead of me.
The good thing is that, I turned out to be a fierce tiger, who can take charge and the people around me knows that all too well.
The “bad” thing is, in the view of other people, I’m not being “womanly”.
I don’t care though.
What is their view to mine?
If I had stuck to their view, I wouldn’t have been happy with my own choices and the dreams I wanted to reach back then.
It would’ve turned out to be filling in the voids of other people’s “choices” based on what the different genders should do.

In my humble point of view (based on my own experience) – apologies in advance, if that doesn’t work well in your community…
There has always been freedom.

People just tend to keep themselves within the bubble of society’s norm.
Then, blame others for their choices.

You did have a choice to do sports as a girl.
Why should you care whether you’d be deemed or seen as more of an athletic build rather than that of a model build who most people see as “perfect”?
Media fed that to you.
So did the brainwash from school, your own community, the circle of friends, etc.
Even with all those negativity around you, you still had the choice to break free from that and be different.
Be yourself.
Love yourself.

Do what you want.
Who’s.. or even what’s stopping you?
The ideals?

You want to know what’s the reality of gender inequality?
The one that piss me off the most (based on my own experience), that I get paid less than those who work lesser than me in my industry.
But, well… I worked it out eventually.
It is NOT a myth that there is a glass ceiling for women.
It’s fine though because it used to be like so.. but, as I’ve said before, I changed.
Fought for what I wanted.
The stigma of women’s rights and standing is based on what they were brought up, and influenced as they grow older, to think.
It’s as real as the air that you breathe.
One example: women tend to think that they don’t deserve the credit and spread the credits to their colleagues even when they do most of the work.
Whilst men tend to take it all for themselves.
It came naturally to me as I grew up as well.
But, when I got angry at the known unjust issue in my own life situation, I did what the men did instead.
It was until much later than I realised that this was one of the examples that successful women state that most women don’t even realise they’re doing to undermine their abilities, skills, etc.

Yet, not everyone wants to do so even after explaining of the other side.
A small percentage might try to change.
Whilst others tend to be “an old dog” who prefers to stick to their regime, yet, keep whining about the same problem continuously.
Oh well~

LOL.. I didn’t mean to talk crap… but.. just thought I’d say something about it.
>_<

❤ Icesabel

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