We don’t inherit a family name/last name/surname.
Sure, it’s a respectful gesture to call a person by Mr/Miss/Mdm/whatever last name.
But, we don’t have a last name.
Our names are made up of:
- Main/first name
- Bin or ibn (meaning, son of in arabic) OR binte or binti (meaning, daughter of in arabic)
- Father’s name
I would really appreciate for people not calling me Miss “my dad’s name”.
It sounds as though either my dad is a girl or I have a guy’s name.
But, most of all, I feel totally awkward when someone calls me by my dad’s name.
It feels like you’re calling my dad and not me. +_+
Come on… what if I called you by your dad’s name?
Especially when you’re a girl, how’d you feel?
When I take the time to explain in basic terms, people get all confused.
Then, they’d say “oh… then… mr “my dad’s name” bla bla bla… then, I’d have to explain even further.
My dad never bla bla bla… it was me and please, just call me by my first name.
I get it.
Mannerism or being polite or want to be seen as professional in some way.
I don’t mind non-locals to not know about this fact.
But, for someone who’s living around here, with neighbouring countries who does adopt the same name concept for a big percentage of the population, is probably living under a rock to be doing so.
Sometimes, I’ll suddenly be laughing when people do so (unless, I’m in a moody disposition).
Especially when someone omits the “Miss” portion!!!!
Don’t worry… you’re not disrespecting in any way.
It just.. feels weird… that’s all.
p.s. Unless you know me irl.. you’d probably not know my dad’s name.
Then again, even some of my ex-schoolmates don’t even know my dad’s name. XD