I saw this in my friends’ thread on FB, as shown in the title of this post.
So, here’s my take on this.
I hope he’s more proud of me rather than negating on what I’ve got to say.
He’s an ITE graduate, although, he would always say that he holds a diploma from a private IT institution.
Ooops.. I can’t remember the name of the institution.
I’m an honors university graduate in Banking and Finance.
To make it clear, my pay is higher than him, but, comparing me with another guy who’s doing the same scope, I am pulling in lesser pay than a guy.
Just as any guy because I have to carry heavy things around, climb the ceiling and walls and go under the tables to maintain/fix the systems/network/etc.
I don’t think I should be discriminated, but, I’m not pro-feminist enough to fight further than what I think I want.
Although it may sound like I’ve wasted my chance to get an even higher pay in finance, it was my choice and I love what I do and that’s what matters the most.
We’re getting married next year and we’ve already been confirmed BTO flat early this year.
I don’t see why salary, status, or whatever nonsense should be in between what you need in life or who you love.
Sure, I’ve heard so much about girls in Singapore being so materialistic.
Then again, I’m that small percentage of girls who isn’t really like a girl inside.
I hated shopping and do other girly stuff until I was in my mid 20s.
Been a tomboy for years, close to my brothers, been close with guy friends who share boy-talk secrets around me because of my “guy-ish” mindset..
Plays soccer and gaming with the guys.
While young girls dreamed of prince charming to sweep off her feet, I was dreaming of me being a princess who could kick butts and save my prince!
Reminds me of Xena the warrior princess.
While the young ladies dreamed of marrying millionaires, I was dreaming of being a millionaire myself, someday, and being awesome without having to depend on anyone.
I do know what a tough life is.
I didn’t get some necessities as I grew up.
Just enough for a meal in school a day.
Not enough for anything extra on weekdays and nothing for weekends.
Maybe that taught me to be a miser and a calculative one, at it.
But, even as one, I would always give my family the necessities first before myself.
Something that my mom would always do, thus, we followed suit.
It’s the same between her and my dad.
Her pay is double of my dad’s until she retired.
She’s 60+ now, but, taking care of my bed-ridden grandma in our house.
Before she became strict and strong older in her life, in terms of religion and character, she was a runner-up in a beauty pageant when she was young.
So, of course, by the time she had me, she told me that she’d kill me inside out if I was ever to do these kinda stuff.
Not as if it’s the kind of stuff I can ever do or want to do anyway.
She’d probably not kill me, but, she’d skin me alive.
Ok ok… she’d just make my life miserable if I were to break her rules.
She showed me pictures of her ex-bfs and told me about her youth and how so many rich and good looking guys were after her.
Doctors, lawyers, businessmen.
I was like.. what the.. she never told me so many things until that one fine day.
Can’t recall what made us talk on that day.
(We cannot look in the eye for 99% of the time, else, we’d go into a quarrel that’d end up in a cold war for months)
(me.. her.. we can’t clique)
She was a nurse her whole life.
Probably a sexy gorgeous one.
Humm… yeah.. most probably.
Yet, she chose and married the one who was the quietest, sweetest, always-trying-to-be-funny-but-not-so-funny technician who didn’t earn much… my dad.
They still go out on dates, just the two of them.
To me, that is the most blessed thing that no money can buy.
Just yesterday, my colleagues and I went to a restaurant to celebrate someone’s birthday.
Held at one of my colleagues’ hubby’s restaurant, well, he’s the manager, but, let out a private room which was only allowed to be rented out at 800 bucks.
Just when I thought that my other two colleagues had rich husbands, that, they could easily be a “tai-tai” and not need to work if they wish to.
Does that make me jealous?
Truthfully, I do envy them.
And all of them have great marriages and are truly in love.
So, you can’t even stereotype all rich men either.
But, truthfully too, my partner is awesome.
While other girls are proud of their partner of being rich and with status…
I’m proud to be with this guy who loves me the way that I am, able to take my gaming addiction, able to stand my attitude, always wanting me by his side, us loving a lot of the same things..
Always proud of him whenever he wins in gaming competitions and in soccer.
I’m no expert and still young and learning about life.
But, I do have a teeny tiny advice.
No one knows what the future will bring.
Sometimes, you think that it’s a dead end in love and life.
But, it’s the beginning of starting anew.
If you’re hurting a lot whilst being with someone or having to change or not be able to drop your mask and be yourself 100%,
That person is not for you, even if you think that you’re deeply in love with the person.
If the person leaves, all the better, because, you’re now free to move on without being shackled down and running back.
If I were to go back in time, I’d rather not have a bf until I was probably in my mid 20s.
I wouldn’t have gotten that finance degree because half of the choice was made by my ex-bf.
But, if that were to come true, I’d probably not meet my partner.
Each person you meet will teach you a few lessons.
Find the good in the bad and you’ll see that there’s more to the eye than just one lesson.