Movie Theatres – Just a thought

I’ve been watching too many video games being played by people.
(Too lazy to play my own game other than D3).
One of which triggered my imagination on movies and movie theatres.

You know those games where they’re more of a story-mode or storytelling session rather than doing something in the game?
Ok…
Now imagine that at different parts of a movie, it stops and the movie-goers would have to vote to what the character (at that moment) wants to take up.
Ladder A? Corridor B? Basement C?
Majority wins.
Thus, the movie theatre would need those voting equipment set up just like those tv “live voting system” shows.

It’d be a lot of work on the part of the production of the movie.
Having to have alternative storylines and endings.
A movie can have 5 endings?
That’s mainly because of the choices made by the movie goers.
Meaning that the story cannot be those “I predict it to be …. in the next scene”.

What if they decide to have a Part 2?
5 endings wouldn’t be a feasible feat.
Probably one ending, no matter what choices that were made in between.

You know those movie theatres that allow you to either purchase and watch either a 3D version or a normal 2D version?
Thus, you can have the vote-availability version and the normal version.
The normal version would be based on the “original” story line.

On the aftermath…
When you purchase the DVD or download the movie, will there ever be a choice or the usage of some sort of software or equipment to make these “votes” and watch to your hearts contents on all the different paths and endings that the choices lead you to?

Then again…
I’m just imagining too much!
+_+

 

<3 Icesabel

Flying Away

It’s been a long time… since I updated.
Been wanting to update many times before, but, just decided to delete it eventually.
But… this time around… I just can’t hold back the overwhelming sadness.

There is not a day without so many issues at a time.
Can’t say it’s horrible… but, I can’t say that it’s good either.
One of the problems constitute my career.
Holding back isn’t fun when the people around me keep bringing up a bleak future.
This year alone, the number of people, I like working with, leaving is more than the last 2 years added together.
It’s… depressing.

Told myself to check on myself at the end of this year.
Can’t believe it’s already October.
Realising that it’s going to be a stagnant position.
I don’t exactly hate this.
I like it, but, it’s not going to help me on my self-declared development and to allow my short span of attention to dwell in the kingdom of boredom (not because of not enough work or problems, but, the shortage of excitement in new things).

Heck… I’ve even been dreaming of getting to new places (while asleep… not daydreaming).
That feeling where there’s this anger within trying to break out because you’re slowly dying of boredom.
>_>
In fact, I’ve been thinking of moving out of this field.
Or at the very least… change the area of expertise… I’m unsure.

Although, I’m itching to open my own business (again).
Not doing IT though.
I just want a change in pace.
A change in view.

I can’t see myself being a high-ranked IT personnel any more.
It’s as though that vision has already gone to a halt.
Back in my teenage years, I wanted to do what I’m doing right now.
Now that I’ve satisfied my craving, I want to break out of this shell.
Others are thinking of “settling down” to a fixed income as they grow older.
I’m thinking of the exact opposite.

It wasn’t any fun crying and breaking down countless times back then.
But, the satisfaction of being steps ahead afterwards was so good.
Being independent and most of all… prove people otherwise.
WAS.

Alright… I’m done whining.
Time to start re-evaluating and planning for my next course in life.

 

<3 Icesabel

HeforShe?

This news was a few days back, but, if you didn’t know, I’ll post a snippet of it.

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Emma Watson’s “HeforShe” Speech as UN Women Goodwill Ambassador
UN Women

Actor and UN Women Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson gave a game-changing speech at the UN about feminism and the need for gender equality. Her speech kicked off the HeforShe campaign, which encourages men to join the fight for gender equality. Full transcript: http://owl.li/BSbad

Some of our favorite excerpts:

“I started questioning gender-based assumptions when at eight I was confused at being called “bossy,” because I wanted to direct the plays we would put on for our parents—but the boys were not. When at 14 I started being sexualized by certain elements of the press. When at 15 my girlfriends started dropping out of their sports teams because they didn’t want to appear “muscly.” When at 18 my male friends were unable to express their feelings.”

“Men—I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue too.”

“If men don’t have to be aggressive in order to be accepted women won’t feel compelled to be submissive. If men don’t have to control, women won’t have to be controlled. Both men and women should feel free to be sensitive. Both men and women should feel free to be strong… It is time that we all perceive gender on a spectrum not as two opposing sets of ideals.
If we stop defining each other by what we are not and start defining ourselves by what we are—we can all be freer and this is what HeforShe is about. It’s about freedom.”

“You might be thinking who is this Harry Potter girl? And what is she doing up on stage at the UN. It’s a good question and trust me I have been asking myself the same thing. I don’t know if I am qualified to be here. All I know is that I care about this problem. And I want to make it better.”

“In my nervousness for this speech and in my moments of doubt I’ve told myself firmly—if not me, who, if not now, when. If you have similar doubts when opportunities are presented to you I hope those words might be helpful.”

– UN Women Goodwill Ambassador Emma Watson.

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Before I had time to read more about it, I thought… “here comes another feminist debate that will just be cut short eventually”.
But, found out that it was more of gender equality rather than being one sided.

There has always been sort of expectations out of your gender.
In my timeline, that was back when I was still in school.

When I delved into the working world, people were more open and weren’t exactly (sure, there’s still some to a certain degree) following the stigma of men and women having to act or behave in certain ways.
Sure, people try to blend in depending in different situations, but, outside of that “box” such as at work and whatnot… it’s pretty different.
Times are changing.

I have seen more men crying in the open than women.
Those “definitions” are still floating around.
It’s a matter of whether you’d care what others would say about it.

Maybe I’m one of those who’d do what I want, when I know what I want.
In a sense, that uncertainty scares people.

I’ve been there.
In a feminist point of view, I’ve been told that I couldn’t get the job I wanted to take up because it was “meant” to be for men.
Gave excuses on why they wanted men instead of women for the job.
I was just starting out, a fresh graduate and someone who was still so naive and emotionally weak from the reality of the harsh world ahead of me.
The good thing is that, I turned out to be a fierce tiger, who can take charge and the people around me knows that all too well.
The “bad” thing is, in the view of other people, I’m not being “womanly”.
I don’t care though.
What is their view to mine?
If I had stuck to their view, I wouldn’t have been happy with my own choices and the dreams I wanted to reach back then.
It would’ve turned out to be filling in the voids of other people’s “choices” based on what the different genders should do.

In my humble point of view (based on my own experience) – apologies in advance, if that doesn’t work well in your community…
There has always been freedom.

People just tend to keep themselves within the bubble of society’s norm.
Then, blame others for their choices.

You did have a choice to do sports as a girl.
Why should you care whether you’d be deemed or seen as more of an athletic build rather than that of a model build who most people see as “perfect”?
Media fed that to you.
So did the brainwash from school, your own community, the circle of friends, etc.
Even with all those negativity around you, you still had the choice to break free from that and be different.
Be yourself.
Love yourself.

Do what you want.
Who’s.. or even what’s stopping you?
The ideals?

You want to know what’s the reality of gender inequality?
The one that piss me off the most (based on my own experience), that I get paid less than those who work lesser than me in my industry.
But, well… I worked it out eventually.
It is NOT a myth that there is a glass ceiling for women.
It’s fine though because it used to be like so.. but, as I’ve said before, I changed.
Fought for what I wanted.
The stigma of women’s rights and standing is based on what they were brought up, and influenced as they grow older, to think.
It’s as real as the air that you breathe.
One example: women tend to think that they don’t deserve the credit and spread the credits to their colleagues even when they do most of the work.
Whilst men tend to take it all for themselves.
It came naturally to me as I grew up as well.
But, when I got angry at the known unjust issue in my own life situation, I did what the men did instead.
It was until much later than I realised that this was one of the examples that successful women state that most women don’t even realise they’re doing to undermine their abilities, skills, etc.

Yet, not everyone wants to do so even after explaining of the other side.
A small percentage might try to change.
Whilst others tend to be “an old dog” who prefers to stick to their regime, yet, keep whining about the same problem continuously.
Oh well~

LOL.. I didn’t mean to talk crap… but.. just thought I’d say something about it.
>_<

<3 Icesabel

Where the ladies at?

Ooooh yeah… finally!
Hired someone to administer the applications for Asia.
IT is always not seen as something important (for eg: IT is last for budget reviewing) everywhere.
Not sure which generation they’re still living in though.
At least, someone’s going to be around for Asia’s time-zone.
Although our “ranks” are pretty much on par, I look up to her.
I mean.. I dropped apps, programming, databases, websites, etc… hated doing those.
Seeing all the issues the different apps guys in HQ have been picking up.. I’d say.. she has to carry a huge bag.

I’ve just realised only 1 out of 30 IT peeps is a lady for our Asia region.
2nd lady on a regional level (for IT)… none from Europe, America, Middle East, Africa, Oceania, etc!!!
Also… the fact that she’s an Indonesian!
Ok.. well.. I’m only half Indo because of my mum and her family, although, she’s born here.
Idk… for some reason, that kinda made me excited.
Hur hur hur~

 

<3 Icesabel

Wedding Photo-Shoot

OMG! I’m so in love with ALL the photos!!!
We’ve gotten our raw unedited version of the photos from our photo-shoot in Seoul, Korea.
In my POV, they’re already perfect enough to need to edit anything.
Sure.. there are the random imperfections.. but, nah… it’s awesome enough for me.
Well, except for one blue screen, which will be a picture in that picture. XD

It’s worth every single cent spent on this!
Thank you IDO Wedding and Photo-shoot location #17!!!

Without much further ado, here they are! <3

 

<3 Icesabel

Kenshin and a few other updates

Watched Rurouni Kenshin: Kyoto Inferno with a few friends last night.
It was… AWESOME.. from the beginning to the end!

Of all the older anime and manga, I didn’t pick this up.
Neither did I watch the first movie instalment a few years back.
But, weird enough, Himura Kenshin was one of the anime/manga characters that I used to draw (using my graphite B-set pencils and drawing paper) because I found him to be elusively striking with his scar as I browsed through the long list of anime/manga online ages back… strong, fierce and good-looking.

But, still, I promise that as long as you’re a fan of manga/anime, Japanese culture/old-era backdrop and/or fighting scenes using the oldskool katana and whatnot, you’re in for a good two-hours journey.
The poster showed that the second part, meaning 2nd part of the 2nd movie will be shown on 2nd October.
Can’t wait for for it.

Unfortunately, I’m unable to say any more than that because I know nuts about the true storyline.
Roflmao~

 

 

Ok.. back to reality.

The most popular questions I’ve been getting since I came back to “reality” are:
How was your honeymoon? (and more in-depth questions about where I travelled)
Notice any difference between being bf/gf and being a married couple? (then concluded on their own, “it’ll change… you’ll see”)

If it’s possible, I’d love to stay in Korea longer.
Unfortunately, I might eventually suffer because I’m known to have difficulties in breathing in cold dry air, once it starts to turn autumn and then winter.
Most of them cannot even speak English and with most menu and words in their language, it’s already tough enough to find Halal food, plus they usually add Pork to most food, so.. that’s a total bust.

I didn’t say things won’t change.
I know it will.
Most, if not all people know nuts about my history between him and me.
The difficult times we went through the past 10 years.
He was there.
No one else was there.
And him back to me as well… all his issues and problems revolving around him and us.
We’re still here.. and have tied the knot.

What all those breakdowns have taught us is to push the negativity of others.
Learned to ignore people who mean nothing, yet, would try to cause problems for others.
Fight for our place.
We fought all the time.
Probably one of those weird couples who make others terrified with our daily quarrels of nothingness.
Then, we forget.
We’re opposite polars that attract.
We share common goals and love the similar things.

We did change throughout those years.
And in more years to home (In Sya Allah)… I know we will change.. evolve with time and changes of environment and situation.
There will always be problems, in and out.
That’s life.

We cry.. fight.. get scared.. feel lost… but, we also laugh and smile.. hold each other up.
It won’t be perfect and we know that first hand because we’ve been through our own set of problems.
It will be different, when did I ever deny that since I was young?
I’ve always been different and to always dream that things will always get better as time goes by.

But, they don’t need to know this.
All I’d reply with is “I know”.
Even how sceptical they are to my monotonous reciprocation.

The bad and good makes us grow.. because the choices we make, will turn us to be who we eventually truly are (and should be).

 

There hasn’t really been a few days of “relaxation” since I came back to “reality”.
Problems have been pouring in, one after another.
Reason why I didn’t want to blog for the past few days is because I’ve been bogged down with so much.
And it’s only been… what?… 2 weeks? Wow~
Even if I thought that I wanted to blurt everything out by blogging, I don’t think it’d worth it at all.
I’ve been having a biting feeling (before I got married) that a few of these problems will come into place.
In fact, the problems don’t lie in us or our relationship as a couple.
But, everything and everyone around us seems to be causing (or even trying) to make us quarrel.
These.. what I’d call tests.. have been pushing their luck on my patience and whether I’d submit to do the right thing.

But, because of all these, I see positive changes.. small ones.. but, surely seeping through to make ends meet.

All I know is that, this is just the beginning and the past 10 years was just the stepping stones to start a new chapter.

 

Cheers~
<3 Icesabel

My Wedding + bestmen singing + yoyo performance

I don’t have the “official” pictures and video for the wedding as I’ve just gotten back from my honeymoon.
Will be collecting it from the photography company we’ve hired end of this week.
But, I’ve got a few from friends and whatnot.
XD

 

This was the first set of clothes right after the Akad Nikah.

The second set (with my god-brother).

Our epic wedding picture! <3

Side view.. heavy stuff on my head.. hate it.
Could barely move my head to the right or left.
='(

Third set (with someone I used to be close with whilst in secondary school).

The pretty bridesmaids!

2 of the 5 bestmen doing a performance – a song by John Legend: All of me.

Fajar Siddiq and Thawhir Yao doing a Yo-Yo performance for us!

 

Apparently, his mum decided to ask the DJ to announce him to go down from the stage to perform (after years of not practising) for everyone.
This old skool boy used to joined the Asia championship in his early teens in Japan.

Kompang.. bunga manggar.. and a silat performance afterwards.

 

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I’ll update again once I get the official pictures and nitpick on the main ones.

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Oh yes.. a little preview of our post-wedding photos done in Seoul, South Korea.

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The awkward moment when…

  1. Everyone (including the Korean staff for our photoshoot) keeps thinking that we married way too early because they thought we were in our early 20s.
  2. Elixir of youth!!! Nah… both of our genetics. A compliment.. considering we’re in the land of “plastics” who are able to look young themselves.
  3. Koreans were asking me for directions whilst we were lost ourselves! (Do I look Korean as well? I was always being called a local in so many Asian countries whilst travelling in Thailand, Indonesia, Myanmar, Malaysia… at home, I’m being asked whether I’m from Philippines and Japan.) XD
  4. Language was a barrier and we had to move about to find our way or purchase something or whatever that needs communication done.
  5. We were hungry most of the time because they were selling pork with mostly everything. So, we had to keep going to find somewhere where we could have our meal. >_<

 

<3 Icesabel

One Day to Go

Scared and stressed… for no reason.. at least, for now.
I’m already disappointed that a lot of my closer friends couldn’t attend.

I’m totally running away.
I’ve booked a hotel room in Singapore for 2 nights before flying off to South Korea for 2 weeks.
The real stress starts after that, but… I don’t want to think about it.

 

I’ve just taken off my braces of 4 years, yesterday!
It feels… weird… without something clinging to my teeth.

The clothes have been sent to my house.
Decorations are being done right now at the location.
Food is being cooked.
Bla bla bla..
I was already over stressed yesterday because there were a few hiccups and they were expecting me to do something?

I wasn’t a Bridezilla until 2 weeks back.
I noticed that, but, I couldn’t help lashing out every time a problem arises.
Shucks… sure, I was a perfectionist years back, but, I don’t really nitpick on stuff that can be compromised when I’ve stopped being one.
But, this time around.. maybe… because it’s my big day… that’s what people always say.. “big day”.

 

<3 Icesabel

مغروم

The cake-cutting song I’ve chosen is Pasha Feat Adelia – Penghujung Cintaku.

But, for the walk-in, the earlier song I’ve chosen was K-Hunter’s Marry Me.
I’ve, kind of, changed my mind.
I’d love it if it’s this one instead.
Toni Qattan – Maghroum / طوني قطان – مغروم

Translation:

In Love

My heart is in love and I’ve never loved anyone else other than you
I swear I’ll burn if you’re not mine

I only want you
Tell me what more would I need if I’ve got you?
My hearts only feels you
Now my heart only beats for you

My heart is in love and I’ve never loved anybody else other than you
I swear I’ll burn if you’re not mine

I’ll go crazy if they take you away from me
They will not give you another guy, other than me
I know that even if they blame you
You will be mine

Tell your family that I’m coming to ask for your hand
I swear I’ll commit a crime if they don’t accept us

 

<3 Icesabel

Hair.. done..

And the reason why I can’t be bothered to post so much pictures of myself is because I look the same in most of the pictures…
No use in posting the “same” pictures again and again.
XD

 

But… I got my hair dyed yesterday at Lacoco Korean Hair Salon at Vivocity by Paul.
I actually wanted it to be a lighter shade of brown, equivalent to some hair extensions I bought 2 years back for one of my hair dye job.
Unfortunately, it turned out to be a very dark brown and Paul offered that I only paid for the treatment and come back next month to re-dye my hair to a lighter tone.
I was fine with it actually.
But, since I needed some hair boost, I bought a hair extension from LYs for my wedding event just now.
The same place I bought my earlier extension.
If I’m not wrong, I’ve only actually worn the “old” extension 3 or 4 times.
I don’t really like “things” on my head… lol~
I think I bought that one on impulse because they looked pretty… lmao~
No one seemed to know that it’s fake even though they said that my hair looked really nice during those rare occasions and were wondering what was different.
They look and feel natural, but, they’re synthetic hair extensions.
Just needed a hair boost for my wedding as I’ve got super fine and limp hair (the oily scalp is not helping the situation at all).
And they’d probably look “dead” if I don’t have them on.

 

<3 Icesabel

Paradoxical

Ummm.. nah.. I’m neither feeling depressed nor confused of any sort.
Just remembered that I’ve got a number of poems stuck in my old bag that I found a few days back when I was spring cleaning my stuff out.
Forgotten to upload the rest of my artwork.. but… hummm~ nevermind.. not that it really matters anyway.

 

Inspired by Andrew Rayel’s 550 (Senta Aether Mix)

Solemnization

This is how the solemnization for a Muslim-Malay marriage in Singapore goes

  1. Exchanging of marriage gifts (Hantaran) between representatives of the bride and groom before the solemnization, if any.
  2. A sermon (Khutbah) on marriage by the Kadi / Naib Kadi (solemnizer).
  3. The bride’s Wali appoints the Kadi / Naib Kadi to solemnize the marriage or otherwise agrees to solemnize the marriage himself.
  4. Solemnization (Akad’ Nikah).
  5. Taklik, reading of special marriage conditions by the groom.
  6. Prayers by the Kadi / Naib Kadi (Dua’).
  7. Groom giving the bride the Mahar (Maskahwin).
  8. Collection of the marriage certificate.

What items are needed

  1. NRICs of the groom, the bride and her Wali
  2. NRICs of the two witnesses
  3. Appointment Letter
  4. Mahar (Maskahwin)

 

What is a Hantaran (Marriage Expenses)?

A Hantaran is a customary gift, usually in cash, given by the groom to his bride’s family for the Walimah (wedding banquet).
The Hantaran rate must be agreed upon by both parties.

 

What is Wali?

In Islam, a Wali is a person who is responsible for the bride’s life before she is married.
As a Wali, it is also his duty to ensure that the proposed groom is a reliable and a trustworthy person who will continue to carry on his role and responsibility towards the bride after her marriage.

Who is a Wali?

Listed in the proper hierarchy, a Wali can be the bride’s birth father, her paternal grandfather, brother, paternal uncle or any male relative from her paternal side. If there is none available, then the Kadi will assume the role as a Wali.

What is the role of the Wali?

The Wali must consent to the marriage. The Wali must accompany the bride when she makes her registration at the Registry.

The role that a Wali plays in your marriage is of great importance. Hence, a Wali, who is found not to be lawful for the solemnization may render a marriage null and void. The consequence of an annulment is undesirable from both the Syariah and civil point of view. For one, the legality of the child that will be borne from the intended marriage that the couple is undergoing is dubious and this will have a bearing on future inheritance matters.

In any event the Wali’s consent is falsely declared, the Registry has the right to reject this marriage application and all bookings made in lieu to this application will be cancelled.

 

Akad Nikah

The groom must utter those words in one breath and must be clearly heard by at least two of the main witnesses sitting beside the kadi.
The kadi will then ask both witnesses and others whether the groom’s vows or recital can be accepted.
If they agree, then the marriage is solemnized and the wedded ones are now deemed husband and wife.

But then there are occasions when the Akad Nikah has to be taken again.
Why is that so?

Well, if the witnesses are not satisfied with the vows made by the groom, for example, his voice cannot be heard clearly, or he stutters or miss a word, or it is not done in one breath, so to speak, then the process of solemnization must be repeated.
Sometimes if the groom fails a few times, the imam will give him a break so that he could calm down and settle himself properly before the akad nikah is taken again.
This usually happens when the groom is really nervous and he forgets the words of acceptance, especially when there are many people around and he is not used to being the center of attention.
Sometimes too, the witnesses are just too fussy and not easily satisfied, and sometimes just want the vows to be taken again to test the seriousness of the groom on his marriage.
But, these cases where vows have to be taken many times are few and seldom.
Normally the vows are accepted after one recital by the groom or at the most, three times.

 

Signing of the documents

After the akad nikah is accepted and the kadi recites prayers for a happy and blissful marriage to the couple, he will then read to the groom the duties of a husband, his rights, the dos and don’ts, and also the duties and rights of the wife.

He will mention in particular the stages in pursuing the Islamic divorce and the consequences of reciting divorce intentions including incidences where it is lawful for the wife to seek divorce.

And after the kadi has finished with his advice ( mostly read from prepared text), the groom, acknowledging the advice given, will then sign the formal papers of marriage for official documentation purpose.

 

What is taklik?

In short, it is the conditions of divorce for the first few months of marriage, according to Islamic laws.
It is being recited after the official solemnization/akad nikah.

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Taklik (for those who want to know) which we got from the kadi at ROMM (Registry of Muslim Marriage).

In Malay:

Pada tiap-tiap kali, saya (sebutkan nama sendiri)

  • meninggalkan isteri saya, (sebutkan nama isteri) dengan sengaja atau tidak, selama 4 bulan atau lebih, atau
  • saya atau wakil saya tidak memberi nafkah kepadanya, selama masa tersebut, sedangkan is taat kepada saya, atau
  • saya melakukan sebarang perkara yang mencederakan tubuh badannya atau merosakkan hartabendanya atau menjatuhkan kehormatannya

kemudian mengadu ia kepada Mahkamah Syariah, serta didapati aduannya itu betul, nescaya gugurlah takak isteri itu dengan talak satu.

 

In English:

On every occasion that I (please mention your name)

  • leave my wife (mention her name) for a continuous period of 4 months or more, intentionally or unintentionally, or
  • fail to maintain her for the said period whereas she is obedient to me or
  • commit any action that causes injury to her body or damage to her property or causes her to lose self-respect

and my wife complains to the Syariah Court and if her complaint is proved, then she is divorced by one talak.

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What is a Maskahwin (Mahar)?

Mahar is a gift given by the groom to the bride after the solemnization ceremony.
It symbolises the beginning of a husband’s responsibility towards his wife in fulfilling her everyday needs.

Mahar can be in cash or benefits, such as gold, silver or money.
Mahar is the bride’s right and she owns the Mahar.
Thus, she has the will to dispose of it as she wishes.

The current minimum rate for the Mahar in Singapore is S$100 cash.

 

The last portion

The formalities of the akad nikah being over, the groom now will go to his wife and slip in the marriage ring.

This is essentially a symbol that he now can touch the bride being her lawful husband.
In Islam, males are not allowed to touch unrelated females, and vice versa, unless the skin or parts are covered.
Now, however, as husband and wife there are no such restrictions or prohibitions.

The ceremony ends with the bride kissing the groom’s hands after the placing of the ring.

They will later in the afternoon proceed for the “bersanding” ceremony – sitting “in state” on the pelamin (stage where they sit like a king/queen for a day)- the highlight of a traditional Malay wedding.

 

 

<3 Icesabel

Test?

I know that life is full of tests.
But, I wasn’t ready for this test.
It took the whole out of me.
It tested a few people at once, as well.
Honestly, I was already at the brink.

How I hated it.
The very fact that I can see sides of people that are just hateful (crystal clear).
Showing the “good” side in front of me.
But, considering upon hearing different stories from different sides…
Well, I know how this works.
It’s becoming clearer to me on who I can depend on and who are right.
The ones who are two-faced and the ones who are unintentionally making hell on earth for some.

It was the first day of Eid Mubarak.
It was supposed to be an auspicious and happy day for all.

In addition to it being merely 6 days to my wedding.
This was a tough test to go through.
I was… pushed to my limit.
The problems slowly cleared up, but, obviously… some would not be clear off until, probably, a few weeks later.

By fate, the taxi driver that took both of us home shared some advice with us.
Something we NEEDED to hear, to understand and remember and even made the both of us agree upon it…
Even though he knew nothing of our problems for the day… we didn’t mention anything about us except that we were getting married this weekend.
It does seem obvious, but, when you’ve been battered down and feeling down, that was probably the last thing on our minds.
He was randomly telling things that actually mattered (had relation) to our situation.
I couldn’t see his face from where I was sitting.
Usually, I’d be able to always see the driver’s face from the rear view mirror.
This time around, it seemed a bit dark in there and didn’t think much about it.
But, since he dropped me off at my porch first, my other half messaged me later on that the driver offered him to only pay 10 dollars…
Stating that it would be a gift for our wedding.
(My other half is staying 10 minutes away from me).
The weird part is that, my other half’s wallet was empty this afternoon as he was finding cash in his pockets and I saw it.
So, I paid for the earlier taxi fare.
And…
Suddenly he has a 10 dollar note, perfect for the price the driver offered.
Also, he said that he couldn’t see the driver’s face either.
The driver did not turn around when he receive the cash.
I don’t know.. we don’t know what really happened.

But all I can say is… thank you for being a kind soul.
I know we needed that talk even if it felt weird…
Because he was speaking to us as though he was giving every piece of advice we needed in order to go through the ordeal.
God bless you.

 

Tests in life are made so much so that you’d either become stronger out of it or break down and leave.

….
After all these…
How I miss Ramadan.

 

<3 Icesabel

Wedding Preparations

Why not make a list, as much as I can remember, on what I’ve done to get me to where I am in the preparation process… all in one post.
So, this post will be updated again and again, without creating a new one, until the big day.

So, if there’s someone from this list that you’d like to hire for your big day, go ahead and contact them~ ^_^

Note: I will not scrutinise the details in which how many times I had to go to and fro to contact the vendors to make the instalments, confirmation on changes, etc, in between these main points.

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The wedding preparations was done by me… alone.
Not with my mum (who wasn’t exactly bffs with me at all), not with my sister, not with my other half, not with my family, not with any of my friends.
Just plain old me.
It has been a hectic year of planning and will not be done with until the wedding is over.
No lies.
It was insane for me.
Juggling between other people’s and my feelings and problems.. his and my family issues… work… and even straining our relationship because I’ve been PMS-ing most of the time due to the high stress load.

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Aug 2014

1: Call Town Council to turn on the power/water supply & unlock wash room and fitting room – 2nd Aug

2: Set up signage – 2nd Aug

3: Car Decoration – 2nd Aug

4: Nikah – 3rd Aug, 10am – Payment to Kadi S$100

4: Wedding reception – 3rd Aug, 11am – 5pm

5: Post-wedding photography 7th – 9th Aug with Ido Wedding + honeymoon 5th – 16th Aug in Korea

 

July 2014

1: To send a few of our “hantaran” gifts to have it decorated together with the gift trays – 13th July

  • Misbaha & Prayer mat
  • Nike Dunk Low Pro SB in Orange
  • Wedding Band from Lovis Diamonds – Love Connection
  • Fossil – CH2891 – Coachman Chronograph Leather Watch in Brown
  • Braun Buffel Wallet
  • Polo Blue Ralph Lauren Man-care & Perfume Set
  • Sony Cyber-Shot DSC-WX80 Camera

Him to me

  • Telekung & Prayer mat

  • Puma Suede Mid Classic Sneaker in Pink
  • Diablo Books
  • Makeup from Sephora
  • Kate Spade Cedar Street Maise Bag in Black

2: To book 2 round trip flight tickets to and fro Jeju via Eastarjet

3: Finalise on whether we can get a silat team

4: Finalise on the last set for the 3 sets of clothes

5: Collect wedding bands – 18th July

6: Collect the altered clothes – 20th July

7: ROMM with dad and mum and other half for interview with Kadi + confirm on info – at least 5 week earlier

8: Taklik (for those who want to know) which we got from the kadi at ROMM.

 

In Malay:

Pada tiap-tiap kali, saya (sebutkan nama sendiri)

  • meninggalkan isteri saya, (sebutkan nama isteri) dengan sengaja atau tidak, selama 4 bulan atau lebih, atau
  • saya atau wakil saya tidak memberi nafkah kepadanya, selama masa tersebut, sedangkan is taat kepada saya, atau
  • saya melakukan sebarang perkara yang mencederakan tubuh badannya atau merosakkan hartabendanya atau menjatuhkan kehormatannya

kemudian mengadu ia kepada Mahkamah Syariah, serta didapati aduannya itu betul, nescaya gugurlah takak isteri itu dengan talak satu.

 

In English:

On every occasion that I (please mention your name)

  • leave my wife (mention her name) for a continuous period of 4 months or more, intentionally or unintentionally, or
  • fail to maintain her for the said period whereas she is obedient to me or
  • commit any action that causes injury to her body or damage to her property or causes her to lose self-respect

and my wife complains to the Syariah Court and if her complaint is proved, then she is divorced by one talak.

 

9: Get finalised wedding itinerary – 31st July

10: Collect hantaran trays – 1st Aug

11: Get our hair coloured + cut + treatment at our fave hair salon at Lacoco Korean Hair Salon @ Vivocity – Final week of July

12: Call Kadi 3 days before the event – 1st Aug

 

June 2014

1: Meet with camera & video company to finalise on the itinerary

2: Buy the clothes for:

  • best men – purchased
  • bridesmaids – purchased (altered, to collect on 20th July)
  • mum – purchased (altered, to collect on 20th July)
  • dad & younger brother – purchased
  • elder brother & his family – purchased

3: To finalise our “hantaran” gifts
He doesn’t know what he wants yet, so I’m waiting for him to give me his list.

Me to him: 7 items
Him to me: 5 items

4: Bought our wedding bands at Lovis Diamonds. Collection date: 18th July
Looks something like the picture below, but, in two tones, rose and white gold.

5: Start to send out invitations

  • FB
  • SMS
  • Meet-ups
  • E-mail
  • Card via face-to-face and mail

6: Finally found my perfect pair of white wedding heels

7: Had facial done
The picture is raw and non-edited.
lol~ I can see the huge pores, dark rings under my eyes and tiny pimples all over on my faceeeeee~
Oh gosh… I really need to do my hair next month!!!
So dry and the ombre effect is not nice at all.. I’ve not dyed my hair for quite a long time.
Grew it out so that the hair dye colour would be more evened out.

 

 

May 2014

1: Booked flights. Had problems with AirAsia because they refuse to either give us “free” tickets or return the amount we paid for double booking to KL a year back. To and fro to Changi Airport and got nothing from them eventually.
Trip to KL with our wedding planner to purchase a couple of stuff including getting my white wedding gown hand-sewn from scratch by Dwen Raha. I told him what I wanted and he drew it out on paper. Woot! And.. and… my tiara! It’s so pretty! <3 The accommodation and food was paid by them. We only paid for our plane ride (it was still expensive though… about 400 bucks just for a one-day trip)


My inspiration:

The shop where I got my tiara. All I did was asked if I could get one.. and.. they agreed to get me one, so, I took my time trying a couple before choosing one cute one!
Unfortunately, I don’t have a picture of it. lol~

View from the apartment we were staying

Beautiful view at the airport before we boarded the plane back home

2: Travel Insurance by Aviva Singapore for 2 for the South Korea trip (post-wedding photography + honeymoon)

3: Spent a week researching on all the places to go and setting an itinerary for our trip to South Korea
In short:

5th Aug

  • Flight 7am – 8.35pm (3 hours interval – stopping by Hong Kong)
  • Staying over at apartment 1 – booked via AirBnB

6th Aug

  • Gyeongbokgung Palace
  • Buckhon Hanok Village
  • Ice Gallery
  • Samcheong-dong
  • Changdeokgung Palace
  • Extra: Ssamze-gil
  • Namsan Cable Car
  • N Seoul Tower
  • Staying over at apartment 1 in Gangnam – booked via AirBnB

7th – 9th Aug

  • IDOWEDDING photoshoot!
  • Staying over at one of the hotels listed by the company in Gangnam – booked via Dynasty Travel

10th – 12th Aug

  • Fly from Gimpo Airport to Jeju International Airport
  • East~~~
    • Maze Land
    • Supjikoji
    • Trick Art Museum
    • Sungsan Sunrise Peak
  • South
    • Waterfalls – Cheonjeyon, Jungbang, Cheonjiyon
    • Alive Museum
    • Teddy Bear Museum
    • Jusaangjoli Cliff
  • West
    • Glass Castle
    • Soingook Miniature Theme Park
    • Chocolate Museum
    • Hyupjae Beach
  • City
    • Ice Museum
    • Love Land
  • Staying over at a hotel in Jeju booked via Agoda

13th Aug

  • Fly back to Gimpo Airport
  • Lotte World Adventure
  • Staying over at apartment 2 near Han River booked via AirBnB

14th Aug

  • Nami Island
  • Petite France
  • Cheonggyecheon Stream
  • Banpo Bridge Rainbow Fountain – River evening Cruise + buffet dinner onboard or Dongjak Cloud Cafe
  • Staying over at apartment 2 booked near Han River via AirBnB

15th Aug

  • Namdaemun Market
  • Myeongdong
  • Dongdaemun Market
  • Extra: Munjeong-dng Rodeo Street
  • Extra: Hwagae-gil Shoes Street
  • Staying over at apartment 2 booked near Han River via AirBnB

16th Aug

  • Flight from 8.50am – 6.20pm (3 hours interval, stopping by Hong Kong)

4: Researched and emailed 5 Korean taxi drivers in Jeju to book to bring us around for our 3-days trip there.
3 replied with their mobile numbers.
Will call them on the first day upon reaching Seoul

5: Met up with our consultant from IDOWEDDING to finalise on what we wanted for the photoshoot

6: Booked our hotel from IDOWEDDING’s list via Dynasty Travels (in order to get the free tansportation whilst doing the photoshoot, else, it would cost us about SG$400!)

7: Booking of 4 hotels/apartments of accommodation because we would be roving from Seoul to Gangnam to Jeju to Seoul.
2 via Airbnb. 1 as said above. 1 via Agoda.

8: Ordered Elegant Custom made Wedding Card Box from ExoticWeddingBoxes via Etsy.com

9: Booked flight for 2 round tickets for Singapore Changi Airport – Seoul Incheon International Airport aboard Cathay Pacific via New Shan Travel

10: Finalise with our wedding planner at their office on

  • The menu of food and drinks that we specifically want
  • Cake & cupcakes
    It would be something like this:

    But, with the design of Mario!

  • Clothes + accessories
    First outfit for my solemnisation event:

    Second outfit:
    Don’t have a picture of it, but, it’s a kebaya similar the one above except that it’s in Tiffany blue.
  • Colour and design of my flower bouquet
    Something like this:
  • What colours and type of decorations we would like for the Bunga Pahar + Bunga Rampai + Sirih Junjung + Sirih Dara
  • Cookies as favors. The top ones are for the adults and the bottom ones are for the kids

  • They ordered and treated us Domino pizza in their office! <3

 

Apr 2014

1: Collected the invitation cards after a lot of to and fro changes made on the venue and whatnot.

2: Make a list of 100+ songs for the wedding

3: Renew passport via website and went down to collect a few weeks later, in time for the KL, Malaysia trip

 

Mar 2014

Booking via Registry of Muslim Marriage website for solemnisation services and application for marriage
There were only 3 kadi available for the date! :( Not much of a choice.

 

Feb 2014

Booking of the usage of Amphitheatre for 2 days (Saturday + Sunday), including power and water usage with the Town Council

 

Jan 2014

1: Met my second make-up artistto do a make-up trial at my wedding planner’s office
Honestly, I’m too lazy to go for another trial make-up session with another one. >_>

2: Hairstyle
With the first outfit:
Full up

With the second outfit:
Half up

With the third outfit:
Full down

 

Dec 2013

1: Attended the 2-full days Pre-Marriage Course in English via SPMC at CIMB building in Raffles Place
It was an awesome one!!! Enjoyed and loved it!

2: Confirmed from whom we would borrow the car from and who would be the driver.
Eventually, it was one of his bestmen

 

Nov 2013

Attended an event at Compassvale to choose and make a down-payment for the invitation cards.

  • 600 pcs of DL Size Postcards

 

Oct 2013

1: Called up and went to see the owner of Ken Studio at his office to book two packages for the big day.

Photography Package

  • 10 hours photography service
  • 300 pcs of 4R photo with album
  • All images returned in high resolution digital file
  • Requested for the owner to be our photographer for the day

Videography Package

  • 10 hours videography service
  • 2 pcs of DVD with editing
  • Raw video on DVD

2: Made an appointment with IDOWEDDING at the Singapore Expo to book for a our post-wedding photography

VIZIT KOREA 4888

  • 30-pages standard photography
  • 4 gowns and 2 tuxedo + Hanbok set
  • 1 consultant + 1 hair and make-up artist
  • 20R photo frame
  • Original CD (unedited images)
  • Local transportation in South Korea (only if we book the list of hotels they partner with via them directly or Dynasty Travels)
  • Interpreter



3:
I wanted to hire Ola Lola Weddings & Events services for my “hantaran” gift trays, but, they apologetically said they wouldn’t be working during that month of our event. :(
Back to the drawing board of research.

4: 2 weeks later, I found Zudyra Creations and took up their package

  • Snap and Print Guestbook services (including photobooth)

  • 12 “hantaran” gift trays
  • Artificial car decoration

5: Called Town Council on how the booking of the location and what we can get out of it

6: Went to the first make-up artist’s place with my wedding planner for a makeup trial
It was alright, but, too thick for my taste

 

May 2013

We went through with their range of packages and settled with the most expensive one, whilst, removing some of the stuff.

  • Food (too long a list to place it here >_<) and dessert for 1200 pax
  • Stage or what we would call “pelamin”, decoration of up to 20ft
  • Tables and chairs with covers
  • Banquet services
  • DJ (my own set of songs in mp3)
  • Bunga Pahar + Bunga Rampai + Sirih Junjung + Sirih Dara
  • 1200 pcs wedding favors (cookies!)
  • 100 pcs favors for kids
  • Makeup artist and Hair Stylist + 3 sets of wedding clothes
  • Kompang
  • Bus
  • 3-tier cake + cupcakes

Deco

 

Oct 2012 – Apr 2013

I did a lot of research.
A LOT.
From food to cards to wedding planners to decoration, etc.
But, we came to a mutual agreement that we would take that wedding planner.
Honestly, we felt that we could work with them because of all the vendors, we were way comfortable whilst discussing with them.
The rest felt as though there was a gap between us and them as clients vs business people.
I called them up and we set up a meeting time and place to talk further and sign a contract!

Asked for A LOT of quotations from a long list of vendors for nearly everything.

 

Jan 2013

Signed the lease, paid for the down-payment.
Estimated to be up by end 2016

 

Nov 2012

Applied for HDB housing loan

 

Oct 2012

We visited the (Malay) Wedding Fair held at the Singapore Expo, talked to a number of vendors.
I was hoping to have a wedding in a hotel initially.
But, eventually gave up on the idea a few weeks later because it would be way too expensive if we were to invite a big group of people.
Hotel = smaller group.. thus, probably only family members and a few close friends… =(
Of the lot, we also spoke to our (eventual) wedding planner, Urbane Wedding Concept.
We actually made a down-payment for a pre-wedding photography by Ken Studio.
Yet, we left the location, still with lots of doubts and unsure about anything at all.

 

Sept 2012

Got a queue number, which is a bit more than half of the number of selected people.
Did a little research and chose a few houses we would like to live in and got one of them (it’s on a first-come-first-serve basis based on your balloted queue number)

 

Aug 2012

Ballot

 

July 2012

Applied for Build-to-order flat during the July 2012 exercise for a spot at the north-east of Singapore as a first-timer.

 

Some time in 2012?

All he said was… “let’s buy house together”.
That was pretty much our “done-deal” to get married and a house.
No proposals.. no rings.. nothing except that one line.

 

<3 Icesabel